Category: Personal Growth

When a flower does not grow, you don’t blame the flower.

I came across a statement today that forced me to stop and think.

The statement: When a flower does not grow, you don’t blame the flower.

There are external factors that come in play over which the flower has no control. But the gardener does. It’s his job that he does as my right things as he can to give that flower an opportunity to grow, maybe even an unfair advantage to make sure it blooms to its highest capacity. It is the gardener’s job to ensure the seed is planted in the right environment. It is the gardener’s job to ensure it receives an adequate amount of sunlight and water on a regular basis. Without these things, the flower has no chance.

Parenting is quite like that. Often times our son will do unexpected things, some good, some not so good. It’s our jobs as parents to take control of the situation then. It becomes our job to ensure he’s provided with the right environment and is nurtured and cared for so he can grow and become the best person he can.

The same goes for employees. It’s the bosses job to provide the proper environment, proper training, proper support and guidance. When you see an employee stumble at their job, don’t wait for the annual review to point it out. Help them fix the issue right when you see. It’ll only help them, you and the company progress.

The same holds true for any relationships. The relationship is the delicate flower and the two people at it’s each end are its gardeners. It’s their job to nurture the relationship so it grows and blossoms overtime. When not taken care of, the relationship falls apart.

It’s really funny how sometimes you hear a sentence and all these thoughts run through your mind. Sometimes it clears your thinking and other times, it leaves you with more unanswered questions. The statement I shared at the beginning of the post has helped me think differently and helped me grow.

Have you ever read or heard anything that has resonated with you and changed your thinking? I’d love if you would share it with me. Just drop me a line at mayurgudka@gmail.com. I’d love to hear from you.

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Two Observations about Failure

I want to state two simple observations about failure!

Observation # 1 – The opposite of success is not failure, no sir! The opposite of success is quitting.

A boxer does not lose a fight because his opponent knocks him down. A boxer loses the fight because he does not get up anymore.

Legend says, it took Einstein over a 1,000 attempts before he discovered electricity. Had he quit after 999 attempts, we might not have discovered electricity yet.

I might be wrong about this, but your parents can verify this story. You fell hundreds of times before you learned how to walk properly. Aren’t you glad you didn’t know the meaning of failure and you never gave up?

I’m not going to beat this point to death, but the opposite of success is not failure. It’s quitting.

Observation # 2 – Failure is not the stepping stone to success if you fail to learn from it.

Self-help books love to tout the phrase, “Failure is the stepping stone to success.” What most fail to say is failure is just failure if you do not learn anything from it.

Like I said, just two simple observations.

Do you have more such observations? Email me at mayurgudka@gmail.com and I’ll update the article with your observations.

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4 Lessons to Remember Forever

One of my heroes is legendary basketball coach John Wooden. Below, I’m sharing just four of countless lessons Coach Wooden has taught me through his books.

  1. Foundation of success lies in industriousness with enthusiasm coupled with skill.
  2. Never be afraid to make mistakes. If you are not making mistakes, you are not doing anything.
  3. Young people need models, not critics.
  4. The purpose of criticism should be to correct, improve or change; never to humiliate or embarrass.

Hope you found some wisdom in these lessons as I did.

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Three Reasons I Fail

Every single time I have failed in life, it is only because of one of the following three reasons:

  1. I did not respect the process.
  2. I did not respect the results.
  3. I did not respect myself.

Let me elaborate on each of the points further for better understanding.

I did not respect the process

Achievement takes work. It’s a process. Often times the shortcuts are going through the entire process in the right manner. In my experience, when I try to cut corners in the process, the process doesn’t seem to work and I don’t get my intended results.

I did not respect the results

Other times I fail because, I don’t believe the results are worth the time and effort. And as soon as I make that decision, I give up on the process automatically thus never bring the goal to fruition.

I don’t respect myself

This is a self-image issue. Thankfully, this has not been the reason majority of the times I have failed. In other words, I don’t think I am deserving enough to achieve the results and thus sabotage my own efforts (almost always unknowingly).

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Maya Angelou imparts words of wisdom

I was inspired today by an email I received from a friend about an interview Oprah had done with Maya Angelou on her 70th birthday. In there, she imparted some words of wisdom. It is my humble attempt to share them here with you.

Quotes by Maya Angelou

“I have learned a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.”

 

“I’ve learned that making a living is not the same thing as making a life.”

“I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.”

“I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to throw some things back…”

“I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.”

“I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.”

“I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone.”

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

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Decision Funnel

Don’t you wish there was decision funnel through which you could run every task on your to-do-list and throw away the unimportant? Well, now there is.

Several months ago, I heard a fellow named Rory Vaden on a podcast. He was promoting his book Procrastinate on Purpose: 5 Permissions to Multiply Your Time. The title piqued my interest because until that day, all I had ever heard was how procrastination was bad and evil.

Rory’s point was, there are certain things that have a domino effect in life. It’s true with money, habits and time.

If one wants to truly multiply their time, they need to procrastinate on all things that don’t create more time tomorrow. Instead, one should focus all of their energies on activities that will produce more time in the future.

In the same podcast, he laid out a funnel to identify these tasks and procrastinate the rest. Today, I want to share that funnel with you.

Decision Funnel

Every single time you come across a task, run it through the following questions.

  1. Can this task be eliminated?
    1. If yes, do not waste time on the task
    2. If no, move to question no. 2
  2. Can this task be automated?
    1. If yes, mark it as “To Be Automated” and proceed to question no. 3
    2. If no, move to question no. 3
  3. Can this be delegated?
    1. If yes, give it to someone who can get it done
    2. If not, move to question no. 4
  4. How significant is this task in larger scheme of things?
    1. If very significant, then ask … does it have to be done urgently?
      1. If yes, do it now
      2. If not, make it part of your to-do-list
    2. If the task is not very significant in larger scheme of things … put it back in line to be processed into the funnel (Maybe things will change and this task might get eliminated)

I found this decision funnel to be immensely valuable.

I hope you feel the same.

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